me. we.

i talked to a friend today who was having some relationship issues. although ive only been in one real relationship myself... i feel like i was put on the fast track to all the little lessons relationships are supposed to teach you. luckily i could just get them out of the way with the one guy. the issue was that the boyfriend was distant and acting like he didnt want to be in the relationship at all.
my question being, "then why is he staying in it?" and before the words could leave my lips i felt a real familiarity. staying in relationships for the sake of being in a relationship. theres a cunundrum. it all comes down to "me" and 'we". the people who stay in relationships that leave much to be desired are typically the people who arent satisfied being a "me" so they find confidence in being a "we". ive been there myself. but there comes a point where you have to look at yourself and realize that you are not half a person waiting for someone to come along and make you a whole one. a true relationship happens when two people can be their full selves and be compliments to eachother. if you are in a relationship because you are insecure and need the "we" to validate you as a person... get out of it and spend some time with yourself. it took me a long time to get to that point myself. but until you love yourself, you can never truly give love to someone else. and for my gays... "can i get a amen?"